To maintain a healthy relationship it is necessary that both partners work together. I cannot overemphasize the importance of communication in clearing relationship conflicts. In our relationship, whenever we come across any conflicts and differences, my fiancé usually takes charge and attempts to start the conversation. Even if I shut my door and turn off my phone to avoid any confrontation he would attempt to get me talking by sliding an apologetic note under the door or something similar.Some very important tips that I found on some reputable websites that I try to adopt are listed below.
Although these tips are found on a website and I am not even sure if somebody has attempted to apply these in their life, I am very confident relaying these to other as I have personally seen the changes resulting from these tips in my relationship.
- Love each other: Loving each other sincerely and without any strings attached is the most important aspect of a healthy relationship. According to Amy Biggs, a relationships counselor and the author of “What Makes Relationship Healthy?” it is very simple and most effective way to keep the relationship healthy. If there is no love, relationship is just a lust from the beginning (Briggs).
- Don’t lie to you partner: In relationship trust is another very important aspect between two people which can break and make the relationship. Amy Briggs says that one should be able to trust other in relationship and never hide things by lying (Briggs).
- Keep good communication: Another relationships counselor, Joyce Woodford, tips good communication as essential in healthy relationships. It means take time to listen to your partner, don’t interrupt while he/she is talking (Woodford). I personally think couples through communication can gain a lot of support, love and care. Especially in long distance relationship communication is the only way to express each other’s feelings and emotions. Both individuals should be open widely towards each other.
- After facing a fight with each other just forgive and forget: This is what I have learned through my experiences that you just need to forgive and forget once the fight is over. As humans, we can never avoid misunderstandings, because it is just the effect of our imperfections in life. But with that imperfection comes perfection because it is with that misunderstanding that the couple will know each other more (Working Mom).
- When you have fight don’t stay mad at each other for rest of the day: Always try to forgive each other and come up with solution and suggestions to improve relationship. The longer you stay in a fight, the more time you need for reconciliation. Let us just remember that the more you let someone dying waiting, the less chance of survival and same is true with love.
- Give and take process. According to Joyce Woodford, one should be able to give and take and not be individually in charge of other (Woodford).
Swallow your pride: Relationship will never work unless one of them is humble and patience enough to bring him/herself down to end the argument and make it work even though he/ she is not wrong (Briggs). - Acceptance: Last but not the least it is very important that one should accept each other the way they are. Don’t try to change other person unless they are willing to change by themselves (David). As I have said above, please keep in mind that no one is perfect and everyone is capable of making a mistake. Accept the little flaws that come with each person. You accept theirs; they accept yours.From my personal experience and through my research I have concluded that it is the little things that make a difference. If we keep an honest relationship, with good communication driven by acceptance of each other there is no stopping from turning an instant love-driven relationship to a healthy long lasting relationship.
Reference:
Frank, David. "How to Have Healthy Relationships." Weblog Entry. Improving Your Life. 13 August2007.24November2008
Working Mom. “15 Ways to Keep a Healthy Relationship” Weblog Entry. Socyberty.14 October 2008. 24 November 2008
<http://www.socyberty.com/Relationships/15-Ways-to-Keep-a-Healthy-Relationship.296359>.
Woodford, Joyce. “Healthy Relationships.” K-State. 10 May 2000. K-State Counseling Services. 24 November 2008.
<http://www.k-state.edu/counseling/topics/relationships/relatn.html>
Briggs, Amy. “What Makes a Relationship Healthy?” K-State. 18 Janurary 2001. K-State Counseling Services. 25 November 2008.
2 comments:
These tips are really helpful. My boyfriend Possesses many of these qualities and I think thats why our relationship is healthy. Although, I think I may need to start owning up and following these tips too.
This is a great blog! Very informative too!
Wow! You have a lot of good information here. Now I want you to be really blatant and clear with your documentation. Are all those bullets word-for-word (or are they paraphrased) from a website? Which one? You have many sources here, and that's awesome. Now I want you to mark their usage by naming them right in the text where they're used. That way, your readers will know from which site goes the corresponding bullet item.
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