Bribed me with nice workout and free lunch

It is so funny to see guys trying to do everything possible out there to win the heart of their ladies. But as much as it is funny for us to see them struggling doing their thing it becomes disturbing when it clears up to be a bribe to spend time elsewhere. Some guys, including mine, do little things to make their girls happy just before a Red Skins game, going out with their friends, going to play pool for couple hours or just playing basketball with their buddies. It is always strange for me to understand why men like to bribe their wives, fiancées and even girlfriends before they want to go out and spend time with “their boys” or if they want to play their favorite sport. I think it is very reasonable and simple to tell your significant other half what you intend to do whether it be activities with friends or just meeting with friends to play pool, basketball or a quick drink. I think there will not be any confusion or conflicts if the communication doors are open from the both sides.


My fiancé is just like any other guy out there if not the worst. It is so unusual for him to call me on Sunday morning and ask me if I want to get up and meet him in gym and then later go for lunch but we need to get done before 1:30pm. I had always told him that I do not want to wake up so early to go workout when we have all day to do that. His reply was that I should stop being lazy and should meet him at the gym in 15 minutes. I said to myself, “wow, how nice of him to think about me and my health first thing in the morning”. I got up and went to workout with him for an intense hour and swim for another hour. By the time we left the gym he was racing his car to get something to eat and while he is driving he is calling his friends one after another. It was bothering me that we just worked out and now he is acting weird and instead of talking to me and decide where we are going to eat he is on phone with his friends. And not to forget I was told to pick the place to eat lunch. Finally, when he was off the phone for few seconds I tried asking him what is going on is everything okay. Who was on the phone and why are you meeting at Gar-field Senior High School on Sunday. He said, “baby, I am going to play cricket with my friends in 20 minutes and since I am the captain of my team I have to make sure everyone shows up on time”. Not only that, he also told me that he had to give ride to a few of the guys. I said, “okay, may be we could go out for a dinner since you are in hurry”. He replied, “ No I can’t, because I will be playing until later tonight and I have to arrange the lights as well so we can play until after dark”. That was when I realized he was just bribing me with nice workout and choice of my favorite place to eat lunch. I figured that the only reason he woke me up early, talked sweetly and spend time with him so later on he doesn’t have to hear me complaining about us not going to gym or doing any activity together over the weekend. I felt really bad that instead of doing that why he didn’t just tell me that he wanted to spend time with his friends so he could play his favorite sport, cricket.

I know this is one thing he really likes doing even when he is tired. He doesn’t care if it is cold, hot or snow but as long as he can get his friends together he can spend all day playing cricket without any food and drink. It is his passion and something brings a bit frustration into our relationship when he is not willing to do anything else on Sundays but cricket.