I promise to myself that I will try to be a better person and listen to him. I will try to make our time together as nice as possible. I will remember to not get mad so quick. I agree that people get stuck in traffic or get caught with extra work last minute. One might agree with all of the above. Well, I ask my fiance most of the time, "Baby why does it happens when we are already planned to go some where or particularly scheduled to go out for a dinner or just for movies. He replies, I have a full time job and I am very busy with school and between Navy. So I get busy and loose track of time. His all time reply why do you like to be so organized and like to plan things in advance. But wait it even gets better when he turns around and blame me for not reminding him about our activities or plans for the day or even weekend.
Just an example when he is not paying any attention to our conversation yet he remembers that I was talking about my co-worker wanted to switch shift on the Friday. So I had called him to make sure if we had any plans for weekend . Sure enough he did not pay any attention so he said oh yeah you should help your co-worker by switching the shift. Well, i went ahead and called my friend Kelley to tell her we can switch shifts. After my class on Saturday I was schedule to work 3pm to 10:00pm. I get call around 2:50pm when i am on my way to work asking me what time I would like to go to movies. I paused for a second and thought to myself and realized he did not pay any attention when I was talking to him just a day before. Finally, I told him I am almost at work and doesn't leave until later in evening. His reply to me was Ooh I thought you were off on Saturday. Why didn't you tell me baby.
I have to agree that since I am in relationship more than five years there wasn't a day when I didn't act like a "Memory Card" or took a blame from my fiance that I neglected to give him call and reminded him about something. For once I just wish that he remembers that we are going to movie on Friday night at 7pm or Saturday morning I have a class at NOVA Annandale not at Woodbridge campus. These things really don't matter what matters the most is that he cares about his other half and that he is serious. I don't mind if he is running late but why can't he just pick up the phone and tell me instead of blaming me for different reasons.
An essential tool to any relationship is trust and best communication and I think it takes both partners to participate to get positive and healthy results. Everything is possible in this world and all it takes to make it happen is strong relationship.
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This is an interesting post, but I don't see the research connection yet. What does your relationship say about how you two communicate? I think there can be a psychology connection here you can explore as to why this listening/not listening behavior continues to happen. Give us some depth and expore the issue in more detail.
Also, watch word choice/useage (loose vs. lose), floating punctuation, lack of capitalization. Give the text a thorough proofread before posting.
It was very interesting to read because us girls we all go through the same reasons=excuses by our bf's, fiaunce or husband day by day. You are right they dont remember but that's where we come in. I believe that man need us to keep their life together, it's like a better half. If one person is forgetful the other one holds the relationship together and in your case your that person for him. He is lucky to have you, just dont panic when he forgets because it's normal; if he was not understanding he would have blew up on you for ruining his plan on a Saturday. Overall this is very interesting to read and Iam looking forward to your next blog. :)
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