A relationship is a state of being related; whether it be by birth, marriage affinity, or other alliance. According an independently owned Love Advice website you can have healthy relationship with anyone in your life including your family, friends, children and life partner. The only difference between my first sentence and the second sentence, which I paraphrased from the web, is the word ‘healthy’. In order to keep the relationship healthy one should know first what is a healthy relationship? A healthy relationship satisfies both partners. It gives them happiness, care, love, support and security. A healthy relationship tells each other that they have someone who will be there in the time of need, pain and share the happiness of their life.
Relationship takes time and a lot of energy and care in order to make it healthy. Every relationship is unique and different and it can bring a lot of happiness and health to one’s life. The K-State Counseling Services did some further research and their study proves that people with healthy relationship have more happiness and less stress.
According to Kansas State University Research and Extension family systems specialist Charlotte Shoup Olsen, a couple can look at three clues to find out whether their relationship is healthy or unhealthy.
* Does each partner simply like the other?
* Does each partner have a mutual honor and respect for the other?
* Does each partner want to be connected with the other?
When I first meet my fiancé I instantly felt the love, care and support that a girl would expect from a husband, boyfriend or a friend. In my relationship I feel very secure; we are happy and care about each other. I feel very comfortable talking to him about anything and discuss our point of view on certain things. I specifically like Charlotte Shoup Olson’s quote, “it’s important to remember that no partner is ideal”. Our relationship may not be ideal but we understand that we are two separate individuals and we are going to be different. Just like any other ‘normal’ couple, we share conflicts and find differences between us time to time in our relation. But the key to a successful relationship, as I discovered on the Socyberty website’ article 15 Ways to Keep a Healthy Relationship, is providing love, honesty, good communication, forgiveness, compromise and acceptance. I try to adhere to that rule to make my life happy and my relationship healthy.
“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.”(Anthony Robbins)
To be continued...
3 comments:
Hey this was a really good blog! It seems that you did more research and applied it to your relationshiip as well.
I think it is very important for people that are in relationships to understand that their partner cannot be perfect.
In my psychology class I learned that arranged marriages lasted while love marriages usually ended up in divorce. This is mainly because in love marriages you expect for your partner to be perfect, but in arranged marriages they compromise with one another.
I think this would be a great topic for your next blog! Anyways, cant wait to read more!
You have some interesting points here! Relationships can be chosen and inherited. Your phrasing at the end of paragraph one is a bit curious. You state that "a relationship tells"--but does it, or do the people involved tell?
You mention Charlotte Shoup Olson: who is she, a relationship expert? It would be nice to see that mentioned in the text. Also, how about linking to the great site you mention here? Finally, where is that Anthony Robbins quote from? I don't see a link or reference...
Very good post. I was just wondering where you got your infomation from. I saw the K-State reference, but nothing else.
Maybe this will help me in my own personal realtionship. My wife and I have been married only two years,and I still don't feel like I know her. You would think that after knowing someone for 2 or 3 years, then being married for 2 plus year, you would be able to pick up on your partners habbits, hangups, and such, but it's harder than most people think.
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